Last night Miss Bolshoy approached me and asked if she could use her middle name this year instead of her first name. She is starting middle school- going from a grade with about 30-40 kids in it to about 150 kids, so most kids won't know her first name. She said her middle name "Sounds more American". Miss Bolshoy is the only girl out of our 5 that we did not change her name. The older 4 all have Ukrainian sounding names, Monkey's is not Ukrainian. Miss Bolshoy had wanted a new name, but I really loved her given name, so we just dropped her formal name, and kept her Ukrainian nickname as her first name. We say it a bit differently than they do in Ukraine, since we don't roll our r's.
I know this is her decision, but part of me is sad. I really love her name. We are also in contact with her bio grandfather and uncle. Her mom died, and this is their connection to her. I was always so happy that we kept her given name, because we are in contact with them, I didn't want to feel like I was erasing her.
Has anyone else dealt with a child switching their name 2 years after they were adopted? I think if she switches, she needs to stick with that name and not go back and forth... She already corrected me this morning when I told her "Good morning, Miss Bolshoy"
Mama, remember, I am not using that name anymore....
Oy. I think she's serious.